I was thinking about something last night, there is no such thing as a "bad person." It came around when i was thinking about the different people i hang out with, and how some people are more alienated then others for being, "bastards" or "bitches." Its interesting for me, because i realized last night that unless someone dislikes me first i don't disown people easily. There was one time when I so called, "hated" someone. But that didn't last for long, because it wasn't really hate. I can't hate or dislike anybody.
A good friend of mine once told me that the thing he liked best about me, was my ability to see the good in people. Since then, i think he has recounted that as being naive and innocent, but the dong rings true for me. Even though, its not that simple in my case. In my book, everybody is okay (maybe good) until proven otherwise. It used to be a naive assumption of mine that everybody was for sure good until guilty, but now I'm starting to realize that there is also no such thing as good people. However, I'm not going to write you off the first time i meet you. Is it true? I sometimes ask myself, in a sense it is. But there is more to it then i realize most of the time, because of some events that have happened in my own life i've become more empathetic towards people. I've realized that there is always a reason for why people do what they do, yes it could be wrong. But i don't hold it against them, because in the end we are all people who just want to be loved.
Which is what brings me to the reason for my post, there is no such thing as a bad person because there is always a reason for why they do what they do. Except, okay granted you might find someone who goes against the grain and commits evil sins for no reason at all. (But this is highly unlikely) Does this excuse their behavior? Absolutely not, but does that mean you should ignore someone and be rude to them for a mistake? No, i don't think you should do that. I'm forgiving by nature, but i also do not condone things people do, (hint i don't condone WHAT they DO.)
There are extreme and mild cases, and if you have one let me know what they are and i'll tell you what i would do.
The reason the person isn't bad however is because they aren't acting on self, they are acting on what another person did to them. If someone like say the Joker, (I'm a big fan of the batman series :) and yes i know he's fiction) likes to kill people, then he could be someone against the norm. But actually i just thought about the fact that he had several events that made him who he was, he got dumped in a vat of toxic waste or in the movie he was ridiculed. There is always a reason for every action humans take, its never just for the fun of it.
People do bad things, doesn't make them a bad person. And in retrospect, people aren't good. Which is a shift in thinking i need to work on, because everybody makes mistakes--everybody will say something bad about another, think something bad or even do something terrible. Everybody in life has one person in mind, themselves. Some people just hide it better then others. And its not terrible, as long as that person recognizes that there are other people involved in running this world.
I don't know if this article conveyed all that i wish to say, so i'll probably come back to reiterate my thoughts.
Questions?? Comments?
Ta ta for now!
Kat
No comments:
Post a Comment